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Relationship Insights That Will Help You Go From Purpose to Vision

Relationships, they come in all shapes, sizes and colors.  From familial, to work, to spiritual to friends, they’re there.  Then you have the good ones, the bad ones, the loving, hurtful, toxic or empowering ones.  Well they all do one thing – grow you!

The word relationship is defined as a connection, association, or involvement; an emotional or other connection between people.

You are in a relationship right now – with me!  Think about that.

As a woman pursuing her purpose in God, desperately seeking the way to live out the greatness she knows she is called to, you are going to experience relationships that will empower you, teach you, test you, hurt you and disappoint you.

When I first started this journey of living my life on purpose with God at the forefront, I thought everyone would be happy for me.  Tereciah had found her purpose!  I was so excited that I knew, finally, why I was here on earth and I was bursting at the seams to do something with the gifts, talents, and skills God had given me and allowed me to learn.  I was ready!

People didn’t get it.  And it hurt – a lot.

My husband didn’t get it; my family didn’t get it; the people at work didn’t get it and even some of my Christian friends didn’t get it.  Talk about being deflated!

However, I did not allow those relationships to stop me or derail me and if you are in this situation right now, don’t let those relationships hinder or stop you as well.

Here are some quick insights to help you walk out this journey from purpose to vision.

  • Who Has Your Ear?

I once heard someone say that whoever has your hear has your mind.  If you allow people to speak words of doubt or lies to you, you will start to believe it. You will see yourself as the words they have spoken.  Words DO have power; whether spoken by you or by others.

  •  Surround Yourself

Not everything is good for you and the same principal holds true for relationships.  Not all relationships have your best interest at heart.  Surround yourself with individuals that are positive, willing to share, encourages you and is growing spiritually.  You want to be able to see fruitfulness manifesting in their lives.  You want to see these individuals doing what it takes to bring their vision into reality.  You want to see faith in action, and with that faith iron will sharpen iron.  In other words your faith will grow and increase because of their faith and vice versa.

  •  Disassociate and Pray!

There will be people in your life – family, friends and haters – that you will have to stop associating with.  It doesn’t mean that you don’t care for them or that you don’t love them anymore.  But you are trying to do God’s will and be obedient.  They may not understand.  If that is the case then keep your distance, be cordial and pray.

Well, what if it’s a spouse or a child or a parent or a best friend?  Then hold your peace and pray; hard (that’s another blog post)!

  •  Know Yourself

What things inspire you?  How do you like to be encouraged?  What traits are important to you in an individual (integrity, friendliness, etc.)  How do you see yourself?  Are you willing to grow?  What things are you willing to accept or not accept in an individual?  What type of relationship are you looking for?  Are you willing to change if necessary?  Are you willing to give to others?  Remember relationships come in different forms.

  •  Reflect and Learn

Take some time to reflect on relationships past and present.  Were they good or bad?  How did you end up in the relationship?  How did you grow?  What lesson did you learn?  Were there mistakes then that you see yourself making now? How have you changed?  Why did the relationship come to an end?  How do you feel about the individual or the situation?

Sometimes God removes individuals from our lives because He knows they are not good for us.  There are times when they are only there for a season – or two, and other times He removes you because He needs you alone.  He needs to pour into you; cleanse you; get you into spiritual shape.

  •  God First

Above everything and all else keep God first.  Let him lead and guide you.  Read his word, follow His decrees and allow Him to call you friend!

I hope these few insights have helped you in walking out your purpose to the big picture of what God says is possible for your life; your vision.

In my relationship with you, I hope we can continue to grow together!

To Your Greatness!

© 2012 Tereciah V. Smithen-Quintana

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ARE YOU READY TO GO FROM THE OLD INTO THE NEW?


When you look at the definition for the word Transition, it is defined as movement, passage, or change from one position, state, stage, concept, etc., to another; change.

We all go through a transition in life and they can come in different phases and forms.   A spiritual transition can come when God is ready to elevate you to His next level.

Several months back I was participating in a conference call on moving forward powerfully in our business, when the topic of “old wine skins” came up.  Specifically, “old wine skins that God wanted us to get rid of.”

The old wine skin that was being referred to was our “old selves”; the “old us.”

In order for those of us on the call to go where God was taking us, we had to let go of our old belief systems, mindsets and fears. African Americans,African descent,business men,business women,businesses,happiness,happy,men,nature,outdoors,persons,photographs,smiles,smiling,women

And that’s my question for you today:  What is your old wine skin that is keeping you from truly stepping out into what you earnestly desire and God’s will for your life?

What is that fear; the unbelief?  What is the mindset that has been a part of you for so long you don’t even recognize it?

To be transparent, let me tell you what my “old wine skin” was: Aloneness.  Not alone as in company or comfort – having people around, but Aloneness as in support.  The integral support I needed to move the vision God had given me forward. There is a difference.

Matthew 9:17 says “neither do people pour new wine into old wine skins. If they do, the skins will burst; the wine will run out and the wine skins will be ruined. No, they pour new wine into new wine skins, and both are preserved.”

During the time of Jesus wine was placed in animal skin – leather, and usually goat skin, to ferment.  The skin would bulge and stretch from the carbon dioxide that was being released and cause the skin to stretch almost beyond their limit.

Well that’s you being stretched.  You’re almost to bursting with all the old stuff God had to clean out of you.

Before God can pour more of Him into you, before He can take you to that next level, He needs you to get rid of one last thing.  That thing that has lain dormant hidden behind other issues and causes: Your Old Wine Skin.

You can’t carry it with you to where He’s taking you.  Where He’s taking you calls for total trust and faith; even when it seems impossible.

If a man therefore purge himself from these, he shall be a vessel unto honour, sanctified, and meet for the master’s use, and prepared unto every good work. 2 Tim 2:21 KJV.

Note: As you travel along the road to walking out your vision and manifesting your purpose, there will always be new levels you will have to attain. Each level you arrive at will require you getting rid of “old” things: Things that you acquired along the way and God does not want you to bring to the next.

Ask yourself, your old wine skin is it a belief system, a Mindset?

  • I am too old to start something new
  • I am not as educated as others will be in the field God has called me to
  • I have a past and people will look down on me
  • I have done lot’s of bad things in the pass; God may have forgiven me for some things but not all

Your old wine skin, is it a Fear?

  • God will not provide the help I need to carry out the vision He placed upon me
  •  I will not be able to find the mate I God has promised me and I will always be a single parent
  • I will not have enough money to do the things God desires of me and me of myself
  • I will fail and bring disappointment on myself and God

Most, if not all, of the mindset and fears had one thing in common, did you notice it?  Lack of faith!

Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof. Prov 18:21

Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. Heb 12:1

I will not; I have done; God will not.  These are all phrases that cancels out what we should be believing God for. Take some time and go before the Lord and inquire of Him what your old wine skin is.  Ask Him to show you where unbelief still resides.

Unbelief is tricky, it has many faces and it shows up in different places.  Places you wouldn’t think of.

And I say unto you, Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you. For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened. Luke 11: 9-10 KJV

So as you transition into your new wine skin, know that it is to make you a vessel of honor, ready for the master’s use!

The old you can’t hold the newness that God is getting ready to bring you into!

Be Blessed!

©2012 Tereciah V. Smithen-Quintana