Relationships, they come in all shapes, sizes and colors. From familial, to work, to spiritual to friends, they’re there. Then you have the good ones, the bad ones, the loving, hurtful, toxic or empowering ones. Well they all do one thing – grow you!
The word relationship is defined as a connection, association, or involvement; an emotional or other connection between people.
You are in a relationship right now – with me! Think about that.
As a woman pursuing her purpose in God, desperately seeking the way to live out the greatness she knows she is called to, you are going to experience relationships that will empower you, teach you, test you, hurt you and disappoint you.
When I first started this journey of living my life on purpose with God at the forefront, I thought everyone would be happy for me. Tereciah had found her purpose! I was so excited that I knew, finally, why I was here on earth and I was bursting at the seams to do something with the gifts, talents, and skills God had given me and allowed me to learn. I was ready!
People didn’t get it. And it hurt – a lot.
My husband didn’t get it; my family didn’t get it; the people at work didn’t get it and even some of my Christian friends didn’t get it. Talk about being deflated!
However, I did not allow those relationships to stop me or derail me and if you are in this situation right now, don’t let those relationships hinder or stop you as well.
Here are some quick insights to help you walk out this journey from purpose to vision.
- Who Has Your Ear?
I once heard someone say that whoever has your hear has your mind. If you allow people to speak words of doubt or lies to you, you will start to believe it. You will see yourself as the words they have spoken. Words DO have power; whether spoken by you or by others.
- Surround Yourself
Not everything is good for you and the same principal holds true for relationships. Not all relationships have your best interest at heart. Surround yourself with individuals that are positive, willing to share, encourages you and is growing spiritually. You want to be able to see fruitfulness manifesting in their lives. You want to see these individuals doing what it takes to bring their vision into reality. You want to see faith in action, and with that faith iron will sharpen iron. In other words your faith will grow and increase because of their faith and vice versa.
- Disassociate and Pray!
There will be people in your life – family, friends and haters – that you will have to stop associating with. It doesn’t mean that you don’t care for them or that you don’t love them anymore. But you are trying to do God’s will and be obedient. They may not understand. If that is the case then keep your distance, be cordial and pray.
Well, what if it’s a spouse or a child or a parent or a best friend? Then hold your peace and pray; hard (that’s another blog post)!
- Know Yourself
What things inspire you? How do you like to be encouraged? What traits are important to you in an individual (integrity, friendliness, etc.) How do you see yourself? Are you willing to grow? What things are you willing to accept or not accept in an individual? What type of relationship are you looking for? Are you willing to change if necessary? Are you willing to give to others? Remember relationships come in different forms.
- Reflect and Learn
Take some time to reflect on relationships past and present. Were they good or bad? How did you end up in the relationship? How did you grow? What lesson did you learn? Were there mistakes then that you see yourself making now? How have you changed? Why did the relationship come to an end? How do you feel about the individual or the situation?
Sometimes God removes individuals from our lives because He knows they are not good for us. There are times when they are only there for a season – or two, and other times He removes you because He needs you alone. He needs to pour into you; cleanse you; get you into spiritual shape.
- God First
Above everything and all else keep God first. Let him lead and guide you. Read his word, follow His decrees and allow Him to call you friend!
I hope these few insights have helped you in walking out your purpose to the big picture of what God says is possible for your life; your vision.
In my relationship with you, I hope we can continue to grow together!
To Your Greatness!
© 2012 Tereciah V. Smithen-Quintana